“The insecure person is fearful and prone to jealousy, clinging, possessiveness, and attachment in relationships, an approach that always brings frustration. The purpose of these feelings is to bind and tightly possess the other, to achieve security by preventing loss and, at times, to punish the other for our own…

“We have been together for 10 years and we are stuck having the same argument over and over. We love each other, we are just building resentments over time and it seems like I’m getting the validation I need from the Therapist, but nothing is changing. Is there any hope? …

“I think I married my mother/father”. If only I had a nickel for every time I heard this in my DM’s from people stuck in a “should I stay or go?” situation in their relationships. I talk to so many people who swear they don’t want to become like their…

I just got off a call with a woman who was stuck in a relationship that was going nowhere. She wanted help. The truth? She wanted MY help to change HIM. Respectfully, that’s not how it works. Everyone wants change, but what I’ve discovered helping people overcome trauma bonds, push/pull dynamics…

If you’re ever been stuck in a loop, repeating the same pattern in your relationship dynamic, pay close attention: Freud called it the “Repetition Compulsion,” where even though you KNOW it’s not wise, or fulfilling, or even healthy, but unconscious forces are pulling us into what’s familiar to us. All…

After working with hundreds of women, hearing their stories, and working with men who’s wives have had enough… I felt inspired to share this message as a public service announcement of the 4 Trauma Responses we are responsible for learning how to regulate if we are to create safety and security in the home…

This one made me extremely uncomfortable to share. Here I was, in the middle of one of the most fun and effortless interviews I’ve ever done with my friend, the host of the Expansive CEO podcast, Hannah Chapman, and then I asked for her consent to go into a topic…

In my recent interview with Dr. Ed Osburn, I unpack what a Trauma Bond is and where it comes from. Over 8 years, I’ve had numerous interviews with Dr. Ed. He’s one of my favourite interviewers. Each time we get more embarrassingly raw and real. Two dudes talking about Trauma…

Masterclass #2: UNPACKING and PREVENTING INFIDELITY: Is the relationship Salvageable? (Understanding the Impact of Polarity and Our Sxxual Shadows) In the raw aftermath of infidelity, a cloud of confusion, pain, and mistrust hangs heavy. The question at the forefront of many minds: “Is our bond truly broken, or can it…