When you get triggered, how long do you hold on to it? Or, do you just repress and deny your feelings? The answer to this question will determine the outcome of your life, and the quality of your relationships. In order to expand the space between stimulus and response, and…

In our group trainings, it’s interesting to watch how someone receives a compliment or acknowledgement from me or the rest of the community: Most get very uncomfortable. Their body tenses up, sometimes they look away or even cover their faces. Deep down we all want to feel loved but…

It was a deeply painful realization the moment I realized that I wasn’t ACTUALLY in control of my own life. As it turns out, we are all unconsciously born into a world with systems, cultural norms, societal decencies religious idealisms, and family traumas without being aware of it. We…

When you understand the language of the Nervous System, you will do away with the notion that there’s something wrong with you, or you’re broken. You were born into a system which has been pathologizing your feelings and emotions (or lack of them). This experience, most commonly described as…

Many of us create vision boards and set goals, but very few put in “healthy, regulated Nervous System” on our list of goals. It’s too bad, because what good are achieving all those goals and intentions without a healthy regulated Nervous System? In order for us to feel fulfilled…

DISCOVERIES FROM SEEING THOUSANDS OF PATIENTS AND CLIENTS OVER THE LAST 20 YEARS WHAT DO WE REALLY WANT? This question plagues most people because quite frankly, most of us don’t really know WHAT we want. We’re so disconnected from ourselves. So full of resentment and shame. So when we…

Co-Dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma Bonds… These are all unconscious patterns. We’ve been conditioned from a very young age to feel that our sense of being is only worthy of love as long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement. On one hand, this is done with all the…

Did you watch todays fb live on Codependency and Covert Narcissism? Got some interesting DM’s from several of those in this community with further questions. Trauma bonds are the silent epidemic. Johnny and Amber are definitely NOT Alone as we all have had some experience with them. We have very…