Can You Relate To This Poem?
One of our students in our Cyclebreaker’s Collective sent me this
poem and said she thought of me when she read it… with gratitude.
I wanted to share it with you, and when you read it and get how
relatable it is, it highlights THE critical practice we all must master in
order to heal and have a wonderful life experience:
my brain and
heart divorced
a decade ago
over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become
eventually,
they couldn’t be
in the same room
with each other
now my head and heart
share custody of me
I stay with my brain
during the week
and my heart
gets me on weekends
they never speak to one another
- instead, they give me
the same note to pass
to each other every week
and their notes they
send to one another always
says the same thing:
“This is all your fault”
on Sundays
my heart complains
about how my
head has let me down
in the past
and on Wednesday
my head lists all
of the times my
heart has screwed
things up for me
in the future
they blame each
other for the
state of my life
there’s been a lot
of yelling — and crying
so,
lately, I’ve been
spending a lot of
time with my gut
who serves as my
un official therapist
most nights, I sneak out of the
window in my ribcage
and slide down my spine
and collapse on my
gut’s plush leather chair
that’s always open for me
~ and I just sit sit sit sit
until the sun comes up
last evening,
my gut asked me
if I was having a hard
time being caught
between my heart
and my head
I nodded
I said I didn’t know
if I could live with
either of them anymore
“my heart is always sad about
something that happened yesterday
while my head is always worried
about something that may happen tomorrow,”
I lamented
my gut squeezed my hand
“I just can’t live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,”
I sighed
my gut smiled and said:
“in that case,
you should
go stay with your
lungs for a while,”
I was confused
- the look on my face gave it away
“if you are exhausted about
your heart’s obsession with
the fixed past and your mind’s focus
on the uncertain future
your lungs are the perfect place for you
there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either
there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment
there is only breath
and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out.”
this morning,
while my brain
was busy reading
tea leaves
and while my
heart was staring
at old photographs
I packed a little
bag and walked
to the door of
my lungs
before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said
“what took you so long?”
~ john roede
— —
Simply beautiful. It actually evoked some tears for me, because of the
profound truth and wisdom.
It’s been a rough past couple of years. Even BEFORE the world shut
down for 2 years, the collective was holding onto “Stored Survival
Stress” in our bodies, causing a variety of health issues and toxic
trauma patterns that distressed our relationships.
AFTER the pandemic?
Well, look around.
We aren’t doing so well as a collective.
If you’re new, then welcome.
You’ve entered a conversation about HEALING.
No matter how far you think you’ve gone downhill,
today is only day 1, and mastering the intimate relationship
between head and heart is the ONE SKILL that can completely
transform how you show up as a parent, as a partner, as a co-worker
so that you don’t have to be “pushing through life so hard,” as one of
our members of the Cyclebreakers community so eloquently stated
today on one of our somatic trainings.
Somatic Healing is the missing link.
It’s what’s been left out in most therapies you’ve invested in, and is the
very reason why any healing work we’ve done, while valuable for
insights and awareness, IS INCOMPLETE as the stored survival stress is
held in places far deeper than your cognitive mind.
When you don’t go deeper to heal it at a nervous system level, the
anxiety worsens, the trauma patterns take over, and cause our lives to
diminish and get smaller, fear takes over, and healthy relationships
become impossible as we don’t even feel safe in our own skin.
This is exactly why I get so jazzed every month when we do the
Breathwork and Badassery Experience. Its a chance for our
Cyclebreakers community to showcase how this work is so profoundly
different than what most people have experience.
Imagine 50 people on a zoom call connected for the purpose of
Breaking Cycles of Intergenerational Trauma that’s impacting their
parenting and insecure relationship patterns. Image a community of
souls joining together for the purpose of breaking stigmas of shame,
blame, victimhood, dismantling generational cycles of abuse, self-
sabotage, self-hatred and anxiety and depression that is now reaching
epidemic proportions in the collective.
Imagine that if you can relate to what you’re reading and you’re
feeling the “pull” — imagine what would happen if you did something
totally different and obeyed that inner pull and showed up for
yourself.
What could shift with your relationship with yourself?
How would that impact your relationship to others?
If you could relate to the poem and want to begin the process of
learning how to master your nervous system (rather than be a slave to it),
throw all your excuses out the window, and open up 4 hours from
noon PST — 4pm PST (that’s 3–7pm EST) or bright and early at 5am
Sunday morning in Sydney (PERFECT TIME FOR THIS) and jump in so
you can get out of your head, get into your heart, and open up
possibilities for yourself.
The journey to breaking the cycle: It all begins here.
