Choose Your Pain

I used to hate setting goals.
I couldn’t figure out if I was being realistic or not with them.

I mean, who doesn’t want to have the best relationship connection
while cruising on private jets together to exotic resorts and adventure destinations?

I wouldn’t say no to a life where those experiences are possible.

But how do I know if it’s a legit goal vs a pipe dream?

When you set your goals for yourself — Have you ever wondered if your goal is a TRUE goal,
or if it’s just a fantasy?

The answer to this question is on the other side of your relationship with PAIN.
If my example above was a TRUE, ALIGNED goal, then I would have a plan.
I would have a date circled.

If I’m short of money and time for the excursion, I would set a date, and a financial target,
and then I would live each day with my focus and energy moving towards that vision.

Here’s the kicker:
If it was TRULY an aligned goal, I would be willing to endure PAIN in the pursuit of it.

The PAIN of the financial burden.
The PAIN of the disruption to the operation of my business.
The PAIN of jet lag.
The PAIN of the risk of getting sick, getting lost, and losing stuff along the way.
The PAIN of a disrupted routine.
The PAIN of being critically judged family members and friends who might feel envy towards me.

If I’m perfectly aware of the downsides of this vision,
aware of all the painful consequences,
and I’m STILL willing to make progress towards this vision,

Then it’s a truly aligned goal.

Healing works the same way.

EVERYONE SAYS they want to heal from relationship dynamics,
divorce, infidelity,
and heal from insecure attachment styles…

UNTIL it becomes painful.

It becomes shockingly clear how many folks think they can heal
simply by reading social media posts, listening to podcasts, and
watching youtube.

Often it’s a cunning way of avoiding the pain of the real work.

Unfortunately when we don’t choose an inspiring pain to grow into,
that pain gets chosen for us.

If your pain of continuing down the same path,
living the same pattern of stuck relationship dynamics,
same reactions,
same arguments…

Same feelings of resentment are working for you,
then own it, and celebrate.

But if your relationship anxiety and pain you’re still unconsciously
choosing to carry
is WORSE than the NECESSARY pain/fear you will TEMPORARY
experience in creating a new reality….

And you’re ready to choose a different path,
one that is more empowering,
one that builds self trust,
one that fosters a healthy relationship with yourself through your Nervous System,

and you’re ready to receive guidance and invest in yourself,

follow the Link and apply to COMPLETELY upgrade your
relationship
with yourself, with others, with your emotions, your children by
becoming a Cyclebreaker.

The pain that you are going through — It didn’t start with you, but it
can end with you.

The motto that has worked for me:

When in doubt, UPGRADE YOURSELF.

In 3–6 months where would you love to be?

Let me know on the application.

Till the next perfect time,

Nima