Fighting The Tears

Dr. Nima Rahmany
4 min readMar 10, 2022

Your relationship with your tears is very telling.

Do you stuff them down?
Do you have problems even accessing them?
Or perhaps you feel that you’re “too much” with them.

If we want to get to the root of this riddle with our emotions —
there are some deeper questions to ponder.

From my observation, this block of emotions is most commonly seen in men, but many women also have the same judgment and shame
towards their own emotions.

It seems small, but it’s massive and has huge implications in our lives.
The places this will show up the most is in
1) Our health — suppression or blocking (repression) of emotions causes
health problems, like digestive issues, skin issues, and auto-immune problems, as well as chronic fatigue and pain.

2) Relationships — our dysfunctional relationships with our emotions and inability
to deal with them and regulate them causes breakdown in relationships with others
who are equally as incapable of understanding their emotions and others.

The worst part of this messed up dance is the conflict that happens inside of ourselves.

Ever wonder what the culprit is to this Inner War? Ever wonder why it happens?

When you were a child, the way your emotions were met
by your primary care-givers pretty much informs how you
will meet yourself when you have these emotions.

Take a moment and ask yourself:

When I was a child, and I had “big emotions,”
how were they met by my parents/ caregivers?

Think about it right now. Take a pause and reflect.

If you ever had your emotions judged, shamed,
or more commonly, met with contempt and pushed away,

you were being taught how to treat yourself.

This was a huge revelation for me,
I went into personal development to help me understand and overcome
the Trauma I experienced as a child, and when I really GOT this, I realized that I was using personal development to avoid my feelings.

(read that again).

Healing can only happen when we surrender to the pain of our younger parts. To learn how to change the relationship with them.
To allow, to feel, to express what has been suppressed since you were a child.

When we don’t learn how to break this endless cycle,
we keep accumulating wounds and traumas to our attachments that are crumbling as the world keeps
spinning into further collective trauma — and we get taken down with it. Our children begin to express what we are avoiding and suppressing.

The trauma gets passed down.

But When you finally master the art of becoming Trigger Proof — , you’re able to meet the stresses and challenges of life
with resilience. You’re able to greet your anger, your fear, your loneliness and scarcity with ease, grace and flow.

Then they move THROUGH you, and don’t get stuck.
You feel lighter.
Your health expands.

Relationships heal — because you’re healing within yourself.

This is the greatest skill never taught in schools.

The biggest obstacle is fear. Fear of letting go. Fear of being seen.
Fear of feeling pain. Fear of losing control and falling into a pit and never getting out.

But the exact opposite happens. You get to experience freedom and relief.

If you’ve been stuck in your relationships — Beginning by looking at the dysfunctional relationship
with yourself and your emotions is the BEST place to begin.
Life completely transforms when you end the fight with yourself.

When you’re ready to learn how to dance with this “dark passenger” of emotions,
release and let go, connect with true intimacy, and have healthy relationships,

Join us at our next event — Link is below.
See you at the next perfect time.

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Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.