Geez This Was A Racy Question

Dr. Nima Rahmany
3 min readFeb 20, 2022


“Holy crap what do I do with a question like this?”

This is what I ask myself often when I get emails and DM’s

from members of this community who are stuck in dynamics that feel overwhelming and hopeless.

Check this out… let me know what you think.

How would YOU respond to this?

“Why do I keep forgiving and loving a man that has taken advantage of me from the start? Is it because I find him so attractive? He is the first man I actually fell in Love with I didn’t even love my ex husband, and for the first time in my entire life I enjoyed sex, I became crazy loving bondage, and crazy sex, I’d never had that before, I have been raped on so many occasions my first was when I was date raped at the age of 16 by a boy that was supposed to take me to the movies… throughout my life I have been forced into sex and the last was my ex husband who would force me to have sex with him…. but this man I let myself loose, I became a woman and LOVED SEX for the first time…. perhaps this is why I am hooked on him besides his beautiful attributes , he is the most attractive man I have ever set eyes on and ever will.

I so badly want him back but he has no positive anything to bring to the relationship and yet I still cry over him daily.

Please tell me what time the webinar is I can’t wait to be there.”

This was from a participant who came to our “Path to Being a Cyclebreaker” Workshop Training I did for free for this community that happened this past Tuesday evening (Feb 15th, 2022).

Trauma Bonds steal our minds and control our bodies.

Trauma Bonds put us in positions again and again that are harmful to us.

Trauma Bonds have us saying “Yes” when our logic says “no”.

Without getting to the root cause and addressing it, we feel stuck and hopeless not having a way out.

The answer to this question (among many other great ones about how to find trust in our own intuition, how to know when we are healed enough to find another partner after a breakup) are all in the 3 hour training, that will be up another 48 hours.

I must say- there aren’t a lot of communities out there that invest so heavily in giving away hours of free content and training. It’s not every community that has so much participation from EVERYONE chipping in to share their story.

But this one does.

And if you weren’t there I’m not offended. If you were one of the 265 people who registered but couldn’t attend, check your email and watch because it will still be up another 48 hours.

If you didn’t register, no worries — — comment below to alert me you are keen to learn what the heck it is, and how to break your own Trauma Bond — if you’re able to open up 3 hours within the next 48 hours to watch it… and after you’ve done that, send me a DM with your back story so I can see if you would benefit (I don’t want to waste your time).

It’s a spicy one.

Lots of great shares.

I’m humbled by the courage and vulnerability of many folks here.

Honored to guide.




Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.