Heroes Become Villains

Dr. Nima Rahmany
3 min readAug 19, 2022

If you’ve ever watched a Superhero movie, you’ll notice a common theme in every single one:

The Hero ends up becoming the perceived villain at some point.

Somewhere down the line,
they fail to meet the pedestal-like expectations placed upon them.

You’ll notice the same thing has happened to you as well.

In relationships whenever you try to rescue someone…

From their sadness and grief,
from their addiction,
from their financial mess…

INEVITABLY, that hero/rescuer complex
gets exhausting,
and we burn out, leaving a trail of resentment behind.

The same thing happens with our healing journey
when we are seeking professionals to help us.

I used to want to be that hero.

Back in 2015, I created the Overview Method and used it to help
rescue people from their unwanted emotional state,
and boy did it work.

I went from being completely invisible and unknown
to having a global following willing to travel the world from 5 different countries
to learn how to apply the Method in their lives to help others….

THAT’S how impactful it was.

The problem was, that at the time, I hadn’t addressed my attachment traumas,
and neither did my methodology.

It was mostly cognitive (top-down) and wasn’t focussed on the somatic (bottom-up) approach to addressing childhood wounding.

As a result of not addressing it, I was helping others as a means of feeling relevant, to help compensate for my lack of significance, and lack of feeling seen and heard as a child.

When we operate from our rescuer/hero mask,
we grow resentful as people then don’t hold THEMSELVES accountable and lean on their “hero” too much.

And when that happens, you aren’t working with a professional who’s helping you…

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Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.