Honoring A Legacy Of Genius
This man has had many haters and critics… but sometimes I read one of his quotes or writings and it takes my breath away.
In trauma healing work, whenever I’m speaking I notice people who are stuck in Trauma narratives really fumble around when trying to pinpoint the exact question they are trying to ask.
The nervous system gets activated, we get stuck in sympathetic or dorsal complexes — and suddenly the wiring shifts into protection and we are unable to put a string of thoughts together to formulate a question.
“Story Story Story Story”…. But you don’t read or hear a question mark at the end.
No specific outcome desired from the narrative…. Just an emotional vent or rant in the guise of a question.
Before I ask a question, I first ask myself “what outcome do I want?” And that will help me aim my question in a more specific direction.
If you can relate to what I’m saying, when trying to find answers to your health challenges and relationship and inner conflict… start with that question and if you find yourself not knowing what you want…
A good place to being the search is to ask why it is we are so disconnected from the intrinsic outcomes we want?
In my search I found the answer to that question to be Attachment Trauma in childhood.
Finding the answer to “how can I legitimately heal from these attachment traumas from insecurely-attached parenting so I can have a relationship that works and feels nourishing?” — has been the most important question that has generated the most freedom I’ve ever felt in my whole life.
This is why becoming better at asking questions is a CRITICAL part of Trauma healing no one really teaches. Until now.