How Healing Actually Happens

Dr. Nima Rahmany
3 min readFeb 20, 2022


In my 20 years of experience, and in my last 10 years of working with those carrying trauma, I’ve found the most effective path towards healing comes from learning how to become YOUR OWN MEDICINE.

All trauma is actually “Separation Trauma” where an event occurs that causes us to separate from OURSELVES.

Without being raised by parents who were safe and empathetic containers for us, as little children, we abandon ourselves in service of approval, safety, and survival. When that happens we go through life looking outside of us for answers.
Then, when shit hits the fan,
we go looking for gurus and saviors to rescue us from the deep feelings of fear and loneliness.

We also will seek them in relationships.

We all consciously want to heal.

But true healing can’t happen unless we learn the skills to reconnect back with the parts of us we abandoned.

When we do, we learn to regulate ourselves.
When we do, a sense of calm replaces our anxiety.
When we do, relationships become more authentic as a reflection
of the authentic connection that’s made back to the parts of us we fractured from.

We then become the medicine we’ve been seeking outside.

When I was disconnected, I realized I had been using personal development as a way of avoiding pain.
I didn’t realize it then, but I was actually avoiding healing when I was doing that.

Healing actually happens by doing the opposite.
By finding a safe witness and community to contain us while we learn how to do that for OURSELVES.

It can’t happen any other way.
We can’t do it alone, and no one can do it for us.

Luckily it’s a skill that can now be learned if you’re truly committed.

When you’re ready, here’s what we got:

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Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.