How To Handle New Traumas After Healing Old Ones
I got this really great question at one of our live events and wanted to share this with you.
Trauma means “injury”.
Just like physical injuries leave scars, so do emotional ones.
When left unresolved, we get triggered or “activated” in day to day life (especially in our relationships).
Without facing them head-on, we tend to avoid them altogether.
Short term, this is a win. After all, who wants to go into situations they know will bring them pain?
But if we keep avoiding going into places in fear of bumping into people who might trigger us,
eventually we notice our world gets smaller and smaller as we begin to avoid life itself.
This lack of freedom is what causes most people to want to face what they’ve been avoiding.
So the inner work begins of unpacking all we’ve put away in a box hoping to never return (but always does).
What happens when we are on the road to healing and feel like we will re-experience these set-backs?
It’s wiser to think of these “setbacks” as AN ACTUAL PART OF THE PROCESS ITSELF.
Once you’ve taken on the cast, restoring the full function of your broken leg is not over.
It never will be.
If you’re planning on living a fully-functioning active life again, It will be a process of mild, sometimes moderate
“re-injuring” of the original wound, won’t it?
Wouldn’t it be wise to learn some powerful stretches and exercises to help you become more resilient with each bump along the road?
As it turns out, our emotional injuries from feelings of abandonment, rejection, anger, guilt, and shame work the exact same way.
I learned this was a missing piece in people’s recoveries from emotional wounds that most people have never taken the time to learn.
You CAN learn how. It’s a process I’ve been tweaking for the last 20 years when I realized most of my patients
were actually suffering form emotional injuries that weren’t healed, and they didn’t understand how to self-regulate through them.
We all have emotional injuries that are unresolved, that are still bleeding into our lives today.
The good news is, that it’s never too late to learn.
We can’t do it alone,
and no one can do it for us.
Find the right guide and community and master these processes.
When we don’t, avoidance runs the show and life passes us by.
When we do — we become free to live from our own values and inner guidance
and not from the voices and values of others.
Inner Freedom awaits.