I Didn’t Know This About Trauma

Dr. Nima Rahmany
3 min readAug 7, 2022

I didn’t know this about Trauma… But it explained EVERYTHING.

Why I was so anxious.
Why I was so self-critical.
Why I was such a perfectionist.
Why I cared so much about what other people think.
Why I didn’t know who I was beyond this false self I put up
to hide from my own insignificance.

Since we teach what we most need to learn,
I wanted to get to the bottom of why I was falling into the same
Co-Dependent patterns in relationships,
despite being intelligent and successful…

Trauma, and my “Unintegrated Shadows” were the culprit.

So I got to work.
Studied Poly Vagal Theory.
Attachment Theory.
Shadow Work.
I even retired from Chiropractic to get my Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Certification.
(Back to school for another 3 years at the tender age of 45!!!)

What I discovered was ASTOUNDING.

It’s the reason why many of our students love their therapists and counsellors but complain
“it didn’t work for me”.

To heal we must go deeper than the stories we keep telling week after week, year after year,
and go hardcore towards the conditioning in our Nervous Systems that are HARD WIRED…
That get tripped up every time we get activated or triggered in conflict.

We must learn the new skill of repair if we want to create secure attachments,
calm and flow in the mind,
and safety in the body.

This clip is a 20 minute clip from the training portion of a recent “Breathwork and Badassery Event”
where I share the insidious ways that we absorb trauma, but never really realized it.

See, most of us think Trauma is when we get physically/sexually abused by our parents and siblings, and family members.

Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.