I Wish My Husband Would Do The Work (AKA Deal With His Issue)

Ya? If that’s what you want, I know the greatest way to increase the probability of that happening:

HEAL YOUR F***IN TRAUMA BONDS.

LEARN WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE AND FIND WAYS TO UNTANGLE THEM.

Yours.

Your own.

You.

The one in the mirror.

It’s like YOUR emotional weight to lose.

Stop waiting for THEM to do it.

When you TRULY commit you literally change the “field” in your favor. You turn the relationship that has felt like an “away” game into a “home” game.

It’s the only way for this to be genuine.

This is my fav type of DM’s lately. From the husbands and wives of the students in our programs… the ones that take you much deeper than the podcast and videos (which are lately if you’ve been paying attention. The shares and vulnerability of the people in our community often brings me to tears.)

If you are still living in the fantasy of waiting for your partner to heal THEIR trauma bonds before you have the courage to face your own….

This transmission is for you.

I’m going to get raw and real.

This conversation is a wake-up call to take action before the police have to be involved — like in my case.

In case you haven’t noticed, tides are turning.

It’s time to look in the mirror and heal from what we’ve been encountering these past few years, let alone childhood.

In this transmission I discuss what a trauma bond is, signs you might be in one, and what we need to do to dismantle them so that relationships can shift from manipulative transactions to authentic love.

As we wish our partners heal and face their shit — our younger selves really wish we would too.