Make or Break Relationships
You meet someone and you experience attraction which turns to infatuation.
Over a period of time when the chemicals designed to bring you together to mate wear off, if you’re lucky enough to have a friendship emerge, the relationship develops into a deep bond.
Now you’re a couple.
If you’re like most of us, you’ve entered this union holding onto unresolved wounds from the past. The only time we become aware of these wounds is when we get triggered by each other.
You might be able to talk a mean game about yourself but your body never lies.
You don’t really know someone until you’ve seen them under stress.
In that state, we get reactively knocked back into our wounds and our younger self comes out.
Without an ability to self-regulate our worries and wounds, we unconsciously rely on the other to fix what is broken and if it doesn’t work out the way we want, depending on your attachment style, you shut down, or rage, or run.
It’s all anxiety.
It’s all a cycle of worry.
Based on the past we fear repeating again.
I used to think “This is too deeply conditioned. I can’t change”.
Wrong.
You can learn the art of being “Trigger Proof”.
Your work is to find stillness, a stillness that’s not based on how someone is being towards you.
When you do, your anxieties lessen and your nervous system relaxes.
The health problems that have come up which are associated with these worries (digestive, hormonal, auto-immune) start to resolve.
You experience true freedom.
Your ability to be present expands.
You can look in the mirror and say “I love you” and mean it.
A powerful purpose within you emerges.
Your intuition expands.
The most surprising of all? The quality of your relationships deepen.
All by putting down the magnifying glass in your relationship and picking up a mirror instead.
Regulate your worries and watch your life completely transform around you. It certainly has for me.
With love,
Dr. Nima Rahmany
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