Pointing Fingers

Dr. Nima Rahmany
2 min readMay 22, 2022


Families have been torn apart.
Relationships are struggling.

The term we can use with the current state of our society is called “Atomized”.

That means we are separated into little cubicles and have been distancing from each other, locked behind our devices.

Since the pandemic our collective nervous systems that are hard-wired to keep us safe,
are keeping us separated from one another, and it’s destroying our lives.

We can’t seem to get along.
We are “othering” people and creating division.

Never before has it been more important to learn how to look within ourselves.

The greatest threat to our relationships is a phenomenon called “projection” where we take the parts of us we can’t stand, and we bury them, deny their existence, and shame ourselves for it.

As a result, we “project” it onto others — and we then point the finger at them, NOT REALIZING THAT WE ARE JUDGING, SHAMING AND BLAMING PARTS OF OURSELVES.

Without learning these basic fundamental relationship skills (like owning what we project in others) as well as “Transference” (the fact that whatever we are triggered by is a repetition of an unresolved past)

we are doomed to re-create conflict and drama cycles that get repeated.

When we don’t learn how, we keep falling into the same patterns, end relationships, only to go back to the same story, again and again.

Its time we learned skills that we never were taught growing up.

When you do,
you’re able to dissolve conflict.
You can speak up and share your truth without hiding. When a rupture occurs, you’re able to repair and return to love.

Because people suck.

But we do need people in order to thrive.

These skills are the most critical to learn in a post-pandemic world.

Our future depends on it.

If you’re keen on mastering these concepts so that you can build the foundation of secure attachments,
conscious parenting, and embodying leadership,

Join us at our Next Overview Experience where I literally break down the fundamentals, leaving you with a tool to dissolve your inner our outer conflicts with whoever you love, so that you’re surrounded by people who get you, understand you, and feel understood by you.

When you’re ready to put down the magnifying glass,
and pick up a mirror and learn how to turn conflict into love, BEGINNING WITH YOURSELF….

See you at our next event!



Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.