Relationship As A Fortress

In the Baha’i Faith, marriage is described as a “Fortress for Well-Being.”

Unfortunately, this is far from what we see in reality today.

Most relationships are based on repeating unconscious patterns from childhood, and MOST people who haven’t looked or studied their role in relationship dynamics
feel betrayed, abandoned, unseen, unheard, and quite alone — even in relationship.

People don’t understand how to regulate themselves — and relationships don’t feel connected.
People are either terrified of intimacy, or have no clue what that even is…
and relationships feel like a PRISON rather than a Fortress for Well-Being.

When our relationships are steeped in conflict,
we feel anxious, depressed, and alone in the world.

This was a depressing reality for me a few years ago after my last breakup.

I knew that if I was to TRULY get the best experience out of life,
I was to learn FOR MYSELF what I never had modeled for me:

I had to learn how to co-create relationships that felt nourishing and mutual.

I had to own my shame, all the parts of myself I was hiding, and Integrate my shadow.
I had to stop playing the victim and take ownership and radical responsibility.
I had to learn how to take conflict — and my Trauma Responses (mine were fight and flight), —
yours could include fawning and freezing — and I had to learn how to self regulate through them….
I had to heal from my past so that I didn’t bring it with me into every interaction.

When I did, I noticed relationships around me started to change,
to reflect the change of the relationship within MYSELF.

Then, before I knew it — I could be authentic in relationships because I wasn’t avoiding conflict.
I could manage conflict with grace, ease, and flow.

And something magical happened when I made the mastery of these skills a priority:

My relationship became my “Fortress” for Well-Being.

Indeed, relationships can either be a prison, or a fortress for well-being.

As long as you’re willing to make it a practice.

If you’re ready to learn how,
Join us at our next event…

or better yet — if you’re ready to truly learn the skills and take full responsibility, fill out an application to see if we are a fit.

Either way,
See you at the next perfect time.