Relationship at The End of The Rope
Have you ever felt like “checking out?”
This experience of “checking out” is a protective mechanism in the nervous system, when we have no clue how to process our feelings.
The truth is that you got into a relationship for the purpose of sharing love. BUT!
Here’s what we aren’t aware of:
WE HAVE UNCONSCIOUS PARTS THAT PUSH LOVE AWAY.
This inner conflict wreaks havoc on our relationships. Without the tools, strategies and guidance — we move on to another relationship…
only to find ourselves repeating that cycle again and again…
That’s what happened with Jenna and Caleb.
Jenna was checked out of her marriage.
Caleb was in a shame spiral from a mental health crisis,
and their relationship was completely at the end of their rope.
In separate beds… disconnected from each other — and not feeling aligned in their purpose.
When they both spoke to me on their Intimacy Audit call, where we help unpack the root cause of the issue,
it was obvious that he was so deep in his despair that she felt completely invisible.
They did something uncomfortable:
They both decided to take ownership of learning how to master their Nervous Systems….
When they did, a magical thing happened.
They became aligned partners.
They dropped their victim stories and began to understand one another.
She healed her relationship with her father (who she hadn’t spoken to in 8 years) and Caleb began to gain the clarity, confidence, and courage to feel safer in his skin, after being crippled with anxiety and panic (which was all unresolved shame he hadn’t dealt with).
On a recent event, Jenna felt inspired to share what her experience was like, and she highlighted how
important RECEIVING GUIDANCE is.
Not a rescuer.
Not a hero to save her.
She knew the work was hers to do —
but to have skilled GUIDES helping navigate the storms.
A lighthouse pointing you towards safety in a turbulent storm.
I look back on my journey of going from Toxic Trauma Bond to a secure attachment within a year,
and there’s NO WAY I would have gotten there without guides to point me in the right direction.
That’s why it’s so meaningful for me to help guide those who are committed to the path of being a Cyclebreaker.
Without the right guidance, we can’t really trust our thoughts (as they really come from trauma patterns).
Without the right guidance, we become co-dependent on our therapists and can’t stand on our own two feet.
With the right guides, we feel the confidence to know that
it was US that is responsible it was US that saved ourselves, not anyone else.
A new reality of leadership emerges from our victim stories.
A few months later, Jenna’s mother was so blown away by her growth that she decided it was time for her to be a Cyclebreaker too.
A rising tide lifts all boats.
Your healing will impact your entire family system.
If you can resonate with Jenna’s share, and you’ve been lurking in the community and want to experience what it feels like
to have a skilled guide leading you back home to yourself, click the links below and join us at our next upcoming event…
Be intentional.
Ask questions.
Take the risk of engaging.
We can’t do it alone,
and yet no one can do it for us.
Your guide on the side,
Nima
P.S if you’re intrigued, watch this video.
