Stress Is An Argument With Reality

Dr. Nima Rahmany
2 min readJul 24, 2022

(Clip from a Live Overview Experience)

Whatever pisses me off about anyone or anything,
whatever I am triggered by,
whatever causes me ANY suffering

when I look carefully with my “Overview” Lens,

100 times out of 100,

it’s because I’m arguing with reality,
projecting a “should” or a “fantasy” on what already IS.

Over the past couple of years when the world went crazy,
I found myself doing that again and again:

Fantasy: “People should be able to understand other people’s opinions and let them be.” (When in fact not too many people did)

Fantasy: “People should respect what I do with my own body”
(When in fact people were simply reacting to feeling unsafe based on the information they were watching)

Whenever reality didn’t match my “should,” I would find myself getting reactive.

It was a very important time for me to go deeper with my practice,
using a cognitive and somatic based tool to help release the stress built up in my system so that I could go through that global crisis and come through on the other side stronger, more on fire with purpose, and more connected to those closest to me than ever.

It worked.
And those who didn’t go through the crisis with intention, with guidance, and with the right community,
many found themselves worse off, relationships destroyed, more anxious than ever.

If you’re going through a transition right now, within your relationships, wondering if you should stay or go,
or single, wondering if you’ll find the right person — or you’re going to make the right decision, trying to lean into finding and living your purpose,

notice if you’re getting in your head, feeling activated, frustrated and stuck…

Just know I see you.

Without mastering the tools and frameworks to help you come out ahead of the game, you’ll notice yourself showing up needy, desperate, and brining the wrong…

Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.