The Dark Side Of Positive Thinking
There’s a lie they don’t tell you about in the “positive psychology”
“Good vibes only” “feel good” circles.
It’s not because they’re deliberately lying to you.
I don’t even think it’s conscious.
Please understand, I’m not bagging on happiness.
It’s a blind spot.
I’m saying that if you put an expectation on yourself to feel a certain way (happy/positive)
then there is a good chance you’re setting yourself up to fail
when you’ve been through a challenging time that has caused
your nervous system to go into “protection mode”.
In that state of protection, we don’t feel good.
We’re not supposed to.
If we don’t learn the mechanisms of how our Nervous System operates,
and how to become active operators of it,
we run the risk of judging, abandoning, blaming, and shaming ourselves
for NORMAL ADAPTIVE RESPONSES.
If you caught your partner cheating,
and you are dealing with the grief of potentially losing,
AS WELL AS having your childhood abandonment wounds triggered,
not SUPPOSED TO FEEL HAPPY.
You’re SUPPOSED TO FEEL FROZEN, ANGRY, OR SHUT DOWN.
Positive thinking is what one would do to BYPASS the pain.
But that won’t help you,
as your attachment wounds are still undressed.
To heal, we must abandon the notion of positive thinking,
and learn the skills of meeting ourselves exactly where we are at,
and mastering how to actively operate our Nervous Systems from a body based level,
and guide ourselves back to safety.
Back to meaning.
To something purposeful, which brings a state of SATISFACTION.
When we do, we become more resilient.
When we do, the exhausting masks we wear come off,
and energy levels rise, and we feel less anxious.
Embracing our shadows not only helps us become more authentic,
but it gives us power and confidence as well,
Which form the building blocks to creating secure relationships.
If you’re ready to learn how to take off the “positive thinking” and “pleasing” mask and
show up as the REAL you that you lost when you were trying to follow the “good vibes only” train,
and learn how to use this awareness to create and maintain secure relationships,
join us at our next event. Breathwork and badassary and Overview Experience
Your fully-integrated self awaits.
