The Hidden Reason Behind Why You Don’t Have A Secure Relationship

Are your relationships volatile, frustrating and causing you anxiety?

Let’s just say, I can relate.

If you there to witness the ridiculous toxic mess that was my last relationship, you would have watched it all unfold and then asked me why the heck I chose to be in a dynamic like that.

It was a complete shit show in every sense of the word.

If I was to ever create something amazing from THAT hot mess,
I had to take a painful look at myself and take responsibility for WHY it was the way it was.
Then I had to do what most people would rather avoid:

I HAD TO GET MY ASS TO WORK ON IT.

The results have been staggering.
When I look at and FEEL INTO the relationship I have now with my wife and son,
It’s almost like talking to a completely different person.

In my 2 hour Masterclass Workshop, I list 5 transitions that I had to make to go from Insecure avoidant, Co-dependent/Narcissistic Cycle
to secure relationship (and continually learning) within a few months.

This is a little video clip from the Training.

When I get to Transition #2 I do a Neural Exercise with all the participants.

I get them to imagine themselves in a secure relationship,
a lot slower and more drawn out than this edited clip you see,

But within a few seconds of imagining a beautiful, safe, secure and mutual relationship,
We see from everyone’s share — a great many painful reactions that show up in the body.
Resistance, panic, fear, even dissociation and absence of feeling all give us powerful data about our Nervous Systems.

When I get everyone to inquire about what the body is telling them, the answers seem to be the very same…

“I don’t think it’s even POSSIBLE for me”
“I’m scared to let it in because it will go away. It always goes away.”
Why does it keep going away?

“Because I’m not worthy of it.”

Heartbreaking isn’t it?

Most of the time when we are experiencing pain in our relationships we are looking for guidance and counselling to help
fix a situation, or maybe to practice better communication strategies, or maybe get our side of the story validated.

All can feel helpful in the moment, don’t they?

What’s left unresolved:

The source of THAT feeling.

Our unresolved attachment traumas.

When you finally address the root of THAT,
you begin to heal.
Your anxiety lessens, and calm presence begins to fill that void.

Your mojo that’s been lost in all the petty drama begins to come back.
You start to look in a mirror with a smile.

And finally, your partner, your work, and the world around you in general begins to treat you exactly how you feel about yourself,
which is freaking phenomenal.

You BECOME the secure container for a relationship to thrive, and you’re unable to avoid being in healthy relationships.

If you’re ready to master the art of healing your attachment wounds,
lower your resistance to love itself,
find your Self Trust so that you can trust in the love you deserve,

When you’re ready, here’s what we got:

Upcoming Masterclass “SHOULD I STAY OR GO?” Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=medium

Upcoming “Breathwork and Badassery” Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=medium

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=medium

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you’re wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you’re ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
Link: https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=medium

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what’s keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
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If you’re tired of content based on fear, and you want to listen to something while you drive, cook, or any time you want to grow, listen to over 160 Fb Live Transmissions I did over the last 18 months to help my community with trainings on Transforming our relationships by learning how to regulate our own Autonomic Nervous Systems so we can work to heal the free-floating anxiety in the background of our lives, transform our relationships, and Break Cycles of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with us.
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Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.