The Insecure Person
“The insecure person is fearful and prone to jealousy, clinging, possessiveness, and attachment in relationships, an approach that always brings frustration. The purpose of these feelings is to bind and tightly possess the other, to achieve security by preventing loss and, at times, to punish the other for our own fear of loss. Again, these attitudes tend to bring into manifestation the very thing that we are holding in mind. The other person, now feeling pressured by our energy of dependency and possessiveness, has an inner impulse to run for freedom, to withdraw, to detach and do the very thing that we fear the most. These attitudes lead to constantly wanting to influence others. Because people intuitively pick up our wish to control them, their response is to resist. So the only way to bring about relinquishment of their resisting us is to let go of wanting to influence them in the first place. This means letting go of the inner fears as they come up.”
~David R. Hawkins
Nobody starts off wanting to be insecure, yet most of us didn’t get the appropriate attachment needs met in order to become the secure partners we want to be.
So we end up creating codependency and living in a state of primal panic in the world of relationships.
Clinginess, neediness, and not owning our self worth.
Take a guess what kind of relationships we end up in.
Once you understand the root of these problems — unresolved attachment wounds and an inability to manage our Triggers as they pop up — secure relationships are the natural bi-product.
Learning to “let go” is easy to say — harder to embody.
But there IS a way.
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On Saturday Nov 18th, I unpack the path to secure relationships for my cyclebreaker academy who are creating more connected relationships this year than ever — opening up a handful of spots for guests who want to peak behind the curtain and learn exactly how to dismantle conflict at its core, turning your triggers into a sense of deeper self worth and conflict into deeper intimacy where you become magnetic.
3 spots left for guests.
Saturday Nov 18 from noon — 6 PST 3–9 EST.
Will help solve the riddle of “should I stay or go.”
