The Part You Hate

Dr. Nima Rahmany
3 min readJul 25, 2022

What part of you do you hate about yourself?

(Take a moment and think about it — I’m serous)

This part is what Carl Jung calls “The Shadow.”

We all have one.

Those parts of us that have us say:

“I can’t show you the real me, because if I did, there’s no way you
would accept me”.

Some of us hide from those parts,
some of us stuff them down (called “repression”)
and others just plain pretend they don’t exist.

The problem is, we all want relationship that feel safe and secure,
but if we are consciously or unconsciously running away from these parts of ourselves,


Because while we conceal these parts of us so that we can make sure
we aren’t rejected…

We block INTIMACY.

The thing we want deeply more than anything…

To be seen, and loved for who we are…

Yet it’s the thing that terrifies us the most.

What a Mind F*** isn’t it.
The “Universal Conundrum” that blocks healthy relationships from happening.

If we don’t figure out how to resolve this conundrum,
we keep finding ourselves with insecure attachments,

repeating the same patterns,
constantly feeling rejected and abandoned again and again,

wondering why we feel so “unlucky in love.”

And the truth is — the relationships we have outside of us are just reflections
of the relationships we are having with our Shadow Parts.

When you finally learn how to “integrate” and unify with those parts,
learn how to dance with that “Dark Passenger” and master the art
of empathic communication and releasing of old wounds,

a sense of power and freedom emerges,
and you become magnetic.

Dr. Nima Rahmany

Dr. Nima Rahmany is a retired Chiropractor and interpersonal trauma specialist studying and teaching principles of healing mind and body.