Today Was A Monumental Day For Me

4 years of trying to untangle from my Trauma Bond has finally concluded with a massive celebration.

I’ll be sharing a bit more of my journey with more detail, but let’s just say that a major chapter of my life closed today and my prayers as well as the prayers of many in my community were answered
I took ownership for my part in a Trauma Bond dynamic that to this day, I’m still trying to break free from because it’s STILL not over — and the outcome was as good as I could have hoped for.

I’ve been attacked on social media almost daily for the last 4 years and been misrepresented, and profoundly misunderstood by people who have no clue of the nuances and accountability for how Trauma Bonds actually occur, and what we can do to make sure our relationships become safe containers.

There are TWO sides to every story.

As I walked into the courtroom to plead “Guilty” to my part in a toxic dynamic between two wounded souls, I finally have the freedom to share my side with the hopes you find yourself in a Trauma Bond with a person you KNOW you shouldn’t be with, but you don’t understand why you can’t leave.
I just want you to know that I see you.
And healing IS possible.

As all my charges were dropped today with a conditional discharge closing the most painful chapter of my life (details to follow soon) I just wanted to acknowledge Diana here as my Sunshine… the wind beneath my wings… who’s unconditional support and understanding from day 1 of our relationship where I spilled the beans on my transgressions — with profound understanding she helped me learn to love myself, and gave me the greatest gift of my life: Dominic.
Both were present today, along with my parents and sister in law, and many who supported me in the court room on zoom.
The value of a secure relationship can not be understated.

Life is challenging

Going into the “unknown” can be scary.
To do it with an emotionally intelligent and mature, self-regulated soul who’s empathetic and understanding is
But to achieve that, I realized I had to become that for myself first.
While I deeply regret how I showed up and what I settled for in my last relationship, had it not been for all the chaos, I wouldn’t have found my inner knowing…and were it not for my ex’s malice and vengeance, I wouldn’t know true unconditional support.

Amanda, you’ve always been my humbling circumstance.
Today, Amanda, you helped me find my pride again.

This pic was taken before going into the courtroom, celebrating the realization that no matter what the outcome would be, I’ve already won with your malice and vengeance being the very thing that helped me find my Sunshine.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
I’m truly humbled and grateful and blessed.