Why You Abandon Yourself
Co-Dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma Bonds… These are all unconscious patterns.
We’ve been conditioned from a very young age to feel that our sense of being is only worthy of love as long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement.
On one hand, this is done with all the right intentions and helps drive us to succeed.
On the other hand, it creates a feeling of anxiety, an “unsafe” feeling in the body, a constant yearning to try to prove our worth,nas deep inside we crave being seen, understood and appreciated for exactly who we are.
If we don’t sort this out, relationships become inauthentic and we end up feeling hollow and completely reliant on how others perceive us.
WE ABANDON OURSELVES IN SERVICE OF EXTERNAL VALIDATION AND APPROVAL.
We then become needy and insecure,
and that type of energy keeps us stuck
in business and in life.
What’s in the way of us reconnecting to ourselves is our INTOLERANCE to feeling our feelings.
We start to become afraid of fear itself.
When you finally stop distracting, start taking responsibility, and taking the steps, YOU then gain access to the “Crowning Achievement” of humanity:
Secure and healthy attachments in family dynamics, with healthy boundaries… Romantic relationships that are based on mutuality, and INTER-DEPENDENCE instead of Co-Dependence…
A feeling of safety in the body…
Breaking the cycle of trauma in family systems…
And lowered sense of anxiety as your level of confidence and resilience with the challenges of life emerge.
You then look around in this current pandemic going on around you but you are like a rock throughout the challenge.
But not until you turn self-abandonment around.
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Grab a tissue. This will deeply impact you and will help you make sense of your relationship challenges.