Your Kid Is Reflecting You

If you don’t have children, and you’re not interested, please disregard this.

But if you do, and you want to connected deeper with them…

I invite you to pay attention and consider the possibility
this might get a bit uncomfortable.

We all want to feel connected to our children,
but when we see them acting out, throwing tantrums,
and behaving in ways that cause us to feel ashamed,
often we are at a loss for what to do.

We then feel anxious, triggered, reactive,
and then feel like we are at a loss of control.

This is when discipline and punishment come in
in many households to help to “bring kids back in line”
and make them behave in ways that won’t elicit
such shame and resentment within us.

Unfortunately, from a Trauma-informed lens,
this causes the child to separate from themselves,
to turn on themselves,

and cause them to grow up without loving, trusting, and knowing who they really are, (And end up hating their parents).