Your Kid Is Reflecting You

If you don’t have children, and you’re not interested, please disregard this.

But if you do, and you want to connected deeper with them…

I invite you to pay attention and consider the possibility
this might get a bit uncomfortable.

We all want to feel connected to our children,
but when we see them acting out, throwing tantrums,
and behaving in ways that cause us to feel ashamed,
often we are at a loss for what to do.

We then feel anxious, triggered, reactive,
and then feel like we are at a loss of control.

This is when discipline and punishment come in
in many households to help to “bring kids back in line”
and make them behave in ways that won’t elicit
such shame and resentment within us.

Unfortunately, from a Trauma-informed lens,
this causes the child to separate from themselves,
to turn on themselves,

and cause them to grow up without loving, trusting, and knowing who they really are, (And end up hating their parents).

This is often how we were raised.

“Children are to be seen, not heard”
“Spare the Rod, spoil the child.”

There’s a better way that helps us raise children without spoiling them,
while at the same time not having to pass down Intergenerational Trauma
that’s at the root of most anxiety and depression that’s become an Epidemic.

It’s to take on parenting as a SPIRITUAL PRACTICE.

This is what we teach our Cyclebreakers in our community.

If you’re having a kid who you’re having a hard time with,
who you’re triggered by…

Try this on:

They are a reflection of (parts of) you.

There’s a kid inside of you who you’ve abandoned and disowned.
Who you’re ashamed or resentful towards.